Speak Well and Prosper

                                                                                

There are many ways to  self improve your selfies, learning them is one thing; applying them, in real life situations another.

You may find family  and friends consistently  undermine your responses / reaction. To what ever …they may be right

So what to, do about it, did do bit a of psychology even pulled off an  E, so lets see what, they have come up with

ok looked in my cupboards, cant be asked to get books I own out the cupboard so lets just start of with …yep the one within reach.

So the book is Law of connection by Michael Losier,

Quote from book:

Science of creating ideal personal and proffessional relationship,
The author has self assessments and work sheet available on line at www.LawofConnection.com

Book  talks you  through your communication style, its gifts and its challenges, and more importantly how other people communicate.
So that through  observation  and practice you can become a more flexible communicator
It is important know why we state things, or as questions the way we do

 in short its about communication skills

Anything winds me, I usually roar first … than think maybe that was a bit harsh[ yes exaggerating]

you may know people who are genuinely so nice that when talking with them, usually find that they are,  unable to form the unpleasant  words [ very easy words as well] when basically bitching ... to them a favour don't finish there sentences... allow them to struggle ; be patient :)  

you may inter weave the the info in this post with the one "Owning your five Star badge " post.

laters fuzzy 

further related / random recommended or random reading:
http://transferflow.blogspot.co.uk/2014/08/introductions-empowerment.html

Always Love Yourself

Our planet as a whole is uncomfortable with emotions over all; one of the reason for it inadequate vocabulary,

Emotion is  well expressed in arty crafts , symbolically   as well as gifts- internally this is where the importance of dreams come in

General Key focus healing all the way to the source of the pain

Identifying  wounds  - does it control your life
Vociferously your wounds
Strange but identify the good

Quest..?
What are “emotional memories “
Fears of taking control back
Is there any forgiveness towards one self or others to be done


This has created which is increasingly termed  “ wound logy culture, meaning the exchange of wounds  as the subject/substance  of conversation
The much needed validation for injury endured , an out pouring of compassion from attentive group members ,

The dangers  here are that relationship based on woundology intimacy
May have the affect of each other
Constant need of each other
Open passage to each other interiors
“ not leaving here, because this is where I found support”

There are many books  &therapy dealing with heart/ emotional therapy.


For some newbies dealing with the stigma emotions related to being a newbie  may be the hardest

Friend from different secondary school to the one I attended, belong to really tight knit group, met some one from this group at a wedding who updated me on what had happened since, about  this friend, since considerable time had passed , apart from feeling the emotion of  sadness that she had gone through depression, what irritated  was the lack understanding compassion, loyalty… friendship itself. This friend of hers who was filling me in clearly hadn’t heard about me…

It will be harder to trust people ,  and creating genuine bonds/ friendship and maintaining  them.

Additionally harder for the more sensitive newbies- you know when words being said do not match the vibes i.e. emotional [*which are most unusually correct* ] you will have to learn the hard way , so as to avoid the shallow lot like the negativity that, they are.

*which are most unusually correct*  example  another one of them eerie Indiana moments  a dislikeable person , for the sake of other friends tried to get along, only just newly getting along, this person  decided to give the unpleasantly  on a parent, this is probably just one of mine personality quirks- my thinking you and I don’t know each other that well that you feel free to talk quite like that yet, [you think I’d take the snidy option spill it all out] I bought parent subject to an end, quick  time, some months later the parent in question passed away, out of respect  visited, about this time learnt that this parent was  a newbie  mmm that explain a bit about how reacted / responded.

Did make me think do I care /want to be parent  and my kids talk about me like that…

Kids are usually quite sweet , after watching Stephen Fry DVD not all kids be the same.- yep uplifting

In family/ sibling  arguments, may have absolutely nothing to pick on, apart  from me  newbie state.

Which can be to totally uncalled  for and extremely hurtful

[if a spouse ever somat like that, nothing in heaven or hell will save them - let me rephrase that  the multi universes will save them]

So unless I enjoy being a pesky type of person there nothing to pick on most part , apart   from me  newbie state, Which is egotistically quite gratifying… there you go, I is just too good :P

always love yourself
laters fuzzy

For those of us who aren't too good, don’t bother looking to the left or right of you :P

The Overt Hormone Address

Asian mentality at it worst  that includes Chinese Indian  and any in /sub between countries.

This probably the one note,  I guess been avoiding like the plague, I can talk about all type of shit at great length; with out batting an eyelid.

This topic however winds me up, no end.

My first encounter with this :p thinking was at the time of my first of three episode,

This senior blood relative of mine male [bleep bleep],  get married [the only accepted way of being screwed over] it will cure you, that is what helped him…  well this was  news … in the silence of thy mind thought nah clearly still a wanker

Thought no more as a serious avenue as  an investigation  alternative tool [good excuse hey:P]

feel free, if you think like that, with a consenting partner let me stress the importance of consent to male newbies..

Yep heard some first hand shit here.. To say the least was most displeased to even hear it  wonder how criminal law would have dealt with it.

Me am most disagreeable / non amicable individual..in fact even nickname myself Godzilla  which is non subtle way of back off I got this.

I only gave this dumb notion further thought  after side effects  of medication given at episode three.
 Mammary glands [ think oranges] working like wtf  … never felt more like cow

Had some very absurd thoughts that the mind ran away with… than finally little grey cells of the logical brain kicked “ read the leaflet that comes with medication” assholes

So has western orthodox  medicine uhh gone underground /overt  on this same dumb thinking ?

I also noted that at acupuncture treatments  a good percentage  of needles placed, are  at points related largely related to sex glands.

There are many glands in the human body, to focus solely on this one as the notable cause is bullshitting everyone  including yourself.

For the time being am leaving this  note as stop barking up the wrong tree.

fuzzy

no body watching cool

:P 

an after thought :

as nobody is watching this one  near one closely so i'll expand 

for those newbies who cant find the way round hormone address 

it not Tao school of Jade dragon / or its equivalent white tiger school  which cultivate

 the  'physical' human body that is part of the missing factor i which explains mechanically how  human body responds 

it is understanding and application of tantra schools of India ,that all 'vibrational bodies' are are engaged 

recommended reading 

sex and perfect lover by mabel lam is a good a place to start and has bibliography at the back.